Spotting liars in online dating

12 Apr

Again, both men and women can and have fallen victim to online dating scammers, but women tend to be targeted more aggressively.

Interestingly, the AARP says that men fall victim to these scams more often, but that women are more likely to report the scam.

If so, it’s likely you’ve closed off your options for meeting someone else. One poll even estimated that out of the entire population of online daters, 30% are married men! That’s why when it comes to online dating, you need to be your own secret agent.

In addition to realizing that the man you cared for was a miserable liar, you’ve also been manipulated into becoming ‘the other woman.’ Now you’re left with a broken heart and heavy shoulders. Luckily for you, there are plenty of ways to spot a liar before you even come face-to-face.

A real smile is seen in the eyes, a fake smile is only in the mouth.

But from internet advertising, visa applications and academic articles to political blogs, insurance claims and dating profiles, there are countless places we can tell digital lies.

So how can one go about spotting these online fibs?

If he seems to be hiding something, don’t assume it’s nothing. If you think you’re being catfished, run his profile picture through a reverse Google image search. Consistent contact means that he’s interested, he’s well mannered, and best of all: he’s not going into the woods every three days to bury a body.

On the other hand, if you’ve been hurt before make sure you don’t confuse a warning sign with your fear of being hurt and jump to conclusions. If he’s stolen it from a catalog, or another person’s social media, a reverse image search can reveal where it’s really from. If somebody is flaky about responding to messages, it can only spell bad things.